Common happenstance: Somebody joins a PTSD support group, discovers a new friend who is *just like them* - which they thought didn't exist anywhere on the planet. The new friend feels the same way. These two end up alone in a chatroom, rejoicing in not being alone anymore, in having found someone who understands.
The Tragedy: They will discover that they are not identical twins or soul mates. Each has their own unique configuration of personality. And when each discovers that the other is not the long-lost missing part of their own soul - and this is inevitable - then strong feelings of betrayal take over. It's a disaster, emotionally speaking.
Suggestion: If you join a support group (which is a good idea, imho) - remain *within the group* - don't go off with a new friend. There's nothing wrong with either of you. You can't be blamed if it's a disaster looking for a place to happen. No matter how strong the urge - stay within the group. Don't pair up - not yet. The support is within the group, where you can still support each other. Trust me. Please.
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This is very good and insightful advice. It shows a depth of understanding and caring that is rare. It should be standard advice for many support groups.
ReplyDeleteDr. M.